Someone who –
- Stands tall and exudes confidence
- Is charming and makes people good about themselves
- Gets hurt efficiently and learns something from their mistakes
- Finds solutions to the problems, not once, not twice, but over and over and over again
- Hustles relentlessly
- Understands importance of gratitude and knows when to pause
- Genuinely loves and accepts themselves
- Has priorities in order
To those who don’t know, the girl in the video is Lilly Singh, the Superwoman. She started making and sharing videos on YouTube few years ago and today she is so famous, she was listed in Forbes magazine, has won People’s choice award and has starred in couple of Hollywood movies already! She just published her first book – ‘How to be a Bawse‘
The things that she mentioned in her video are exactly what I want to become. I want to be a Bawse. Although I don’t want to be a YouTube star, or be very famous, but I want to shine wherever I go, office, family gathering or even in the supermarket or a coffee shop.
I want to exude confidence, have solutions to all problems, express my honest gratitude, make people good about themselves, set priorities and follow them. I want to a Bawse!
Although I haven’t bought or ordered the book yet, because I generally don’t like to read such books where someone else tells us what we should do. But I will get one book, for Lilly 😉
I will share here whatever wisdom I gain from it.
This thing happen at my work yesterday.
We had a meeting, a retrospection. Now, we have our meetings on skype. So, like we all were virtually present. And everybody had to say how were their last 2 weeks of work. If they have any inputs or feedback about the work process. I really didn’t have anything to say. So when it was my turn i said so just as i had decided.
But when it was our team lead’s turn, as always, he had a lot of things to say. And after he is done he always asks everyone about their opinions on it. Yesterday again he asked everyone about their opinions and well it was like, nobody replied. Including me. We could have said “yea we agree” or we could have said “oh no that is not a good idea in my opinion” or we could have just said “i don’t think we have any opinion about it” rather than just staying mumm and keep him wondering what we all are doing. I am glad that he just laughed out at this. He could have got angry and walked out of the meeting or said some harsh words but he didn’t.
But after the meeting i really felt miserable. I am still feeling. I knew nobody else was going to say anything. But since i am trying to be a better person, trying to improve myself I should have said something. I failed myself.
In my protest I can say that whatever he was saying, on that our opinion wasn’t going to matter. He shouldn’t have discussed it with us. He should have just told us rather than asking our opinions. But again, if i want to move up a level, i need to prove it by showing that i too have a brain that thinks and makes points and gives opinions. I lost that chance. And i was busy doing some coding while he was doing the talking. I was a bit stressed with my work. This is more of an excuse though.
So I am once again going to remind myself about the things that I want to achieve, the things that i need to change about my self.
Wherever you are, be all there-
I am only going to do one thing at a time. I need to learn to connect and disconnect myself and my brain immediately. I am little slow in such things, but i need to change. Even if i fail in the beginning, i need to take this task. I have to do it.
Be loud and clear
Sometimes i don’t say things out of shyness and fear. I also sound meak when someone says thank you and I have to say welcome or no problem in return. That shouldn’t happen right? Well it happens because i am overwhelmed that someone says thank you to me(so many times). But it is so disrespectful to not to say ‘welcome’ loud and clear when they say ‘thank you’ clear enough to make us their feelings known!!
So i know where i go wrong and how i can correct myself. Now i just have to put efforts into it. I don’t want to be the same me when I go back to India. I want to be a better person. Person who loves herself. Person who makes everyone around her feel good. I want to be a Bawse!
I have already written a post on this topic before, and I feel like writing something about it again.
Especially now, when people are being so vocal about these things, I don’t think there is any point in holding myself back.
So… I have read some posts by my fellow bloggers where they have opposed the allegations against women of being less productive during this time of the month. And I disagree. I don’t want to pretend that nothing happens to me when I am on periods. I really feel low at times. I feel dizzy and weak due to loss of blood and their is hell lot of pain in my back and legs. I even get cramps. I don’t feel like getting out of my bed. And sometimes I change my pads only because I don’t have other option. I know women who suffer worse than this. Some have gases, indigestion, stomach ache. Some have their menstrual cycle a week long while those who have irregular cycles can have it even longer.
I think this is absolutely natural. I don’t do it on purpose. The mood swings, the pain, both are a result of hormonal changes. They are as natural as men’s moustache or beard.
Almost every woman bear this pain every month. If I have to give statistics, I will say 9 out of 10 women have the pain. I will go ahead and accept that we also wish to take leaves instead of commuting a long distance journey just to be called ‘non productive’.
I wish somebody could explain the sanitary napkin advertisement directors/writers that blood spilling out is not the only problem we have. It is just one of them. And no matter how much blood your pads can absorb, we never wear white pants during periods. Not out of fear but out of love for those pants.(Or do both the things mean same? I don’t know, I am on my periods!!)
My point is, just from these 4 days, you can’t conclude that we are less productive in our work. Sometimes the first 2 days(toughest!!) fall on the weekends as well! And even if you consider those 4 days as non productive, i can still show you some men who in spite of “being men” are not productive for 4 days of every week.
Coming straight to the point, I agree that we might not be that efficient at times, due to natural reasons, but we(everyone who is otherwise productive) do give our 100% for the rest of the month and if you consider it’s gross total it will still be more than 100% of the entire months of many other people. Again, we cannot deny the fact that there are women who, in spite of the pain, work equally hard and give their best every day.
Now if you think this post of mine is useless, non worthy and not my best because I am feeling down, then let me tell you, it is still better than many of my other posts which I had written when I was absolutely normal. And you can find many other bloggers irrespective of male or female write better or worse than me.
I think I have made my point here!!
On my way to work, it feels so good to be close to nature every day!
I am going bit easy on myself. I have heard this song many times before, but I still don’t know it by heart. So I am going to start with something familiar.
Hope you enjoy it too!
Also, let me know if you know any good, beautiful French songs!
“You may ignore us, you may not take care of us. You may not even let us look in the mirror for days. But how dare you decide our boundaries?? How dare you set our limits?”
“Don’t act innocent. We know you did it deliberately. Just to save your work. So that you can lay in your bed for some more time. You can just spend you Sunday as a holiday and not as a HAIR-WASH-DAY. And you don’t have to always think about what you have to do with us? And mainly because you knew your mother wont like it.”
You really think that’s the reason?
As I read this news, again and again, over and over, I couldn’t help but think – this could have been me.
Couple of years ago, I too was 24-25, working in a well-known, MNC, IT firm, with security guards 24 hrs. But I still didn’t feel safe.
There were 4 buildings of 4 floors in my campus. My desk was on 2nd floor in one of those buildings. And there was a security guard on each floor, working in shifts. So at a time, there would be at least 16 security guards inside the buildings with an extra bunch of them on the main gate, surveilling the visitors and vehicles. Around 3000 employees working in the general shift. And I still didn’t feel safe.
I have always liked to brag about the fact that I like to watch movies! A lot of them, but not all of them. I also think of myself as superior to others who just prefer to watch mainstream cinema. And I will literally bow down to those who watch more movies like me and more than me. I know they are a lot of them.
My logic is simple. I watch movies with lot of involvement. And after this much involvement, which I don’t make in any other things, dead or alive, I expect to get something in return. And especially when we don’t have to do any hard work to get the returns, we expect even more 😉
When I was young, I would watch any movie I could grab my hands on. Yeah, because I had access to very few movies. And then, I never really thought through the story-line or the plot or the acting. I would just be happy with a happy ending or getting to watch beautiful looking people for 2 – 3 hours.
When I used to learn French, I also used to listen to a few French songs, generally the ones recommended by our teacher, Manalee.
One of the songs that I liked was – ‘Aux Champs-Elysees‘
In the sun, in the rain,
At noon or midnight
There’s everything you want in the Champs-Elysees.
I cannot help but think of Mumbai, the city of dreams. And I got a chance to live there, experience it’s uniqueness and believe, that there’s everything I want here!
It’s true indeed!
While discovering about myself, I would like to know what is it that reminds you of your city?